Teen Drug Use and Trends, May 3rd at 6pm, Torrey Pines HS

The San Dieguito Union High School District has invited the Dons’ community to join them at this important seminar, presented by the READI Program of SDUHSD.

(Dabbing, Concentrates, Oils, O-pens, Vaping, Health Effects, Etc.) “WHAT’S CHANGED OVER THE YEARS”

May 3, 2017

6:00pm to 7:30pm

Torrey Pines High School Gymnasium
3710 Del Mar Heights Road
San Diego, CA 92130


Sarah Urfer, MS
Lab Director

Joseph Olesky, MS
READI Program
District AOD Counselor

This presentation is open to the Entire Community.

Included in this presentation will be information regarding teen drug use that exists in our community and how they endanger the lives of our children.

Areas of Interest:

Why is Marijuana use with students growing so fast?
How has Marijuana changed over the decades?
What can parents do to help their children survive?
What can everybody in the community do to fight rampant drug use?

If You Have Any Questions, Please call Joe Olesky at 760-436-6136, ext: 6183. This seminar will be translated in Spanish.


Excellent article on how our body both gives us messages - and receives messages - that heavily influence how we feel and how others perceive us. Read Here


On Death, Dying, and Grief - Pet Loss

I just completed an extensive day-training conference with David Kessler, a leading author and speaker on death and dying, co-written and trained with both Louise Hay and Elizabeth-Kubler Ross. He also cared for the dying with Mother Theresa in Calcutta.

Some take-aways from his recent conference. 1) kids do well with knowing 2) no decision is a decision 3) we miss people we loved for the rest of our lives 4) the biggest fear during the dying process is being a burden to our family 5) we have the right to make the wrong decision 6) we come into this life in the middle of a movie and we leave it in the middle of a movie.

The day ended with Laughter Yoga (laughter is our free and natural painkiller), a great release and absolutely hysterically fun. You can find David's resources and upcoming retreats at http://grief.com/


Thoreau was supposedly asked on his deathbed whether he was ready to meet his maker. He responded quietly, "One world at a time." 🌕🌖🌗

Below is a terrific flow chart on transitioning from Victim, to Survivor, to Thriver

A "traumatic" event can be something that happens which makes you rethink everything you thought about the world you live in; a major disturbance that challenges your core beliefs about self or others. 
Once upon a time, a close friend of mine discovered that who she thought was her father, was in fact, not her father. As we talked, I became aware that she had all the signs of a person in total and complete shock (disbelief, confusion, paralysis, emotional numbing, tears). I told her this was "traumatic" news, in fact, this was a real life trauma - what she had known and believed for many years was shaken, thrown into chaos and confusion - she could begin to move away from stunned shock and slowly move towards the reality of what it is. Just the act of talking was anchoring for her. I could hear the settling down of her heart rate as she began to retell and organize the facts of such harsh news in a stabilizing, calming way. 💙 Recentering. 

The Man Who Saw Too Much 

Video for Kids: Relaxing Breath


Meditation in March

Opioids should be a last resort for back pain - Just say no when that doc hands you or your kiddo a bottle of pain pills for simple procedures. "Health insurance is more likely to cover pills than tai chi."

Holding space for someone. “Take your time,” she said. “You don’t need to call the funeral home until you’re ready. Gather the people who will want to say their final farewells. Sit with your mom as long as you need to. When you’re ready, call and they will come to pick her up.”

Plan X to save your kid - No questions asked. Teach them how to lie, if necessary, to escape a crappy situation. We've all been there.

Join My Next Meditation Class in March- Register Here


"Making a lot of money doesn’t make you a millionaire. But saving a lot of money can." Dave Ramsey


Adult Teen Living at Home...

QUESTION: My 19-year old son lives at home and attends community college. He believes that because he is an adult, he can come and go as he wishes. He has had parties when we were absent and has a girlfriend over with the door closed. He does not pay rent but maintains good grades.

"My House, My Rules"

ANSWER: Freedom and privilege are earned by behaviors - not chronological age. If you clothing, feeding, and sheltering him, then he is living as a dependent, not an adult. I would also guess that you pay his car payment and phone bill, which further allows you the ability to restrict his curfew and guests in the home. Living rent-free with mom and dad, should be fairly uncomfortable, otherwise they'd never feel the longing to leave.

How to Unfeather that Delicious Home Nest: Remove their cellular data. The kiddo can always access internet from the home, coffee shops and school. Limit data usage...life is not an unlimited plan, so let's teach them how to curb their impulses. Don't eat out often. Make tghem buy their own recreation (movies, concerts, clothing). Set a be-home curfew (this has nothing to do with their adulthood but everything to do with the fact that shutting down the day at a certain hour is reasonable). Limit the guests in the home. Remove the cable boxes. Terminate Netflix, or at least change your password so that only you may access it.  Refuse to allow closed bedroom doors. 

24 Hour San Diego Adult Access and Crisis Line 
at 1-888-724-7240.


Sex Book Recommendation

Book Recommendation - Optimal Male Sexual Health

The New Naked

A must-have book on male sexual health by Dr. Harry Fisch (regular contributor on Howard Stern and Doctor Radio) 💛 Some random highlights for optimal sexiness include: higher fatty diet leads to lower testosterone and increased progesterone. Avoid pasta, pizza, bread, cake and cookies. Zika virus lives in semen for 6 months. Only one out of four men wear condoms. 💜 Yes, they delay orgasm. Men over 45 are especially resistant, and after one month into a relationship most altogether stop using a condom. "No glove, no love" to prevent STI's. 💙 The female condom, now covered by insurance, is a great alternative for many reasons. Benzocaine is an easy topical way to sustain an erection. Learn how. 💚 Too much porn disables the natural ability to orgasm in addition to impairing relational skills over time. Blood pressure meds Do Not Solve high blood pressure - exercise, sleep and diet solve high blood pressure.