Employee Training for Soft-Skills

Often times the best employees have the worst soft-skills, lacking in the ability to be a team player and keep cohesiveness with others in a small space. 
Employers benefit greatly in the long run when they provide on-going education, training and support to their staff. "Cheaper to Keep Her" is the motto - work with what you have. Many small companies have mandatory self-awareness courses annually as a way to insure their staff stay mentally and psychologically fit, learn new and current communication effectiveness. It is financially beneficial for an employer to cover these expenses; we all have witnessed perfectly profitable companies spiral out of control at the hands of one difficult personality.
Here are two good trainings offered locally.

UCSD Extension

Effective Communication


One of the more famous episodes has Mr. Rogers taking off his shoes and soaking his feet in a children’s pool with an African-American police man, Officer Clemmons. This was groundbreaking in 1969, when black Americans were not allowed to swim in the same pool with white people in many parts of the country.


On Death and Dying

In the Lakota-Sioux tradition, a person who is grieving is considered most wakan, most holy. There's a sense that when someone is struck by the sudden lightning of loss, he or she stands on the threshold of the spirit world. The prayers of those who grieve are considered especially strong, and it is proper to ask them for their help. You might recall what it's like to be with someone who has grieved deeply. The person has no layer of protection, nothing left to defend. The mystery is looking out through that person's eyes. For the time being, he or she has accepted the reality of loss and has stopped clinging to the past or grasping at the future. In the groundless openness of sorrow, there is a wholeness of presence and a deep natural wisdom. ― Tara Brach



All Things Come And Go


The Long Arm of Childhood Sexual Abuse

The Long Arm of Trauma: Childhood sexual abuse affects 18% of women and 8% of men. How does a Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA) survivor make the decision to share this fact with his or her romantic partner? 

A large 65% of survivor-adults in a recent study were met with helpful response from their partner. 
In a study focusing on partner responses to women’s rape, two types of responses were frequently identified as beneficial: emotional support and informational support. 
Positive responses to such a disclosure can promote the adjustment of survivors by reducing shame, guilt and isolation. 
Getting to know your future partner at the age of 20 is far different than meeting your future partner at the age of say, 50.  What prior historical details are appropriate to share? How do we go about knowing when is the right time to reveal these facts?
Should that part of your personal history be discussed at all? *In fact, males are less likely to share their past sexual abuse with a romantic partner.*
While partner-support might feel terrific, should we really expect others to understand? Do we need to know EVERYTHING about our partner? If so, when? Is such an intimate disclosure a set up for the fracture of the relationship and future abandonment? These are personal decisions and require careful consideration.


Esalen Workshops - All Fantastic!

Some great new workshops coming to Big Sur's Esalen..

Hold Me Tight Couples
Stan Tatkin  Couples


Lily Tomlin is 80

Happy 80th birthday to Lily Tomlin. I met her years ago in Hollywood, when she was in a one-person act that she wrote with her partner of many decades, The Search for Signs of Intelligent Life in the Universe. She was so warm and kind and generous (also unbelievably tiny). The modern-day elder is the now - loving these wise creative souls that are living so long and healthy and beautifully. 


Perfect for Parent to Child
Partner to Partner
Friend to Friend