Failure to Launch: What exactly is happening with young adults that they seem to malinger well into their late twenties - delaying driver's permits, seeking irrelevant, if any, jobs, sleeping in their childhood bedrooms?
"We’re in the thick of what one sociologist calls “the changing timetable for adulthood.” Sociologists traditionally define the “transition to adulthood” as marked by five milestones: completing school, leaving home, becoming financially independent, marrying and having a child. In 1960, 77 percent of women and 65 percent of men had, by the time they reached 30, passed all five milestones. Among 30-year-olds in 2000, according to data from the Census Bureau, fewer than half of the women and one-third of the men had done so. A Canadian study reported that a typical 30-year-old in 2001 had completed the same number of milestones as a 25-year-old in the early ’70s."Delaying marriage and parenthood until one's 30s is generally seen as a good idea these days, but postponing financial independence is another matter. The phenomenon of 20-somethings living with their parents (partially or even fully supported by them) is so widespread that most people reading this have surely witnessed it, many within their own families. It's a frequent topic of puzzled discussion among people my age, who wonder why things have changed so much in a generation."
Improve Communication: Couple's Communication Repairs
We’re on the same team
I want to hear you better
Help me to see your point of view
Let me cool down so I can avoid reacting
Both of us are a somewhat right
I am feeling unheard/disrespected/unloved
Your feelings are valid
Let’s try to behave differently from this point forward
My role in this is _____________
How do you see tomorrow/our trip/your day off/the party going?
Let’s be tender with each other
Avoid: (eye rolling, sighing, turning your back, tight fists, hands on hips)
This is how you are
This is how I am
I've told you before