I just completed an extensive day-training conference with David Kessler, a leading author and speaker on death and dying, co-written and trained with both Louise Hay and Elizabeth-Kubler Ross. He also cared for the dying with Mother Theresa in Calcutta.
Some take-aways from his recent conference. 1) kids do well with knowing 2) no decision is a decision 3) we miss people we loved for the rest of our lives 4) the biggest fear during the dying process is being a burden to our family 5) we have the right to make the wrong decision 6) we come into this life in the middle of a movie and we leave it in the middle of a movie.
The day ended with Laughter Yoga (laughter is our free and natural painkiller), a great release and absolutely hysterically fun. You can find David's resources and upcoming retreats at http://grief.com/
Thoreau was supposedly asked on his deathbed whether he was ready to meet his maker. He responded quietly, "One world at a time." 🌕🌖🌗
Below is a terrific flow chart on transitioning from Victim, to Survivor, to Thriver
A "traumatic" event can be something that happens which makes you rethink everything you thought about the world you live in; a major disturbance that challenges your core beliefs about self or others.
Once upon a time, a close friend of mine discovered that who she thought was her father, was in fact, not her father. As we talked, I became aware that she had all the signs of a person in total and complete shock (disbelief, confusion, paralysis, emotional numbing, tears). I told her this was "traumatic" news, in fact, this was a real life trauma - what she had known and believed for many years was shaken, thrown into chaos and confusion - she could begin to move away from stunned shock and slowly move towards the reality of what it is. Just the act of talking was anchoring for her. I could hear the settling down of her heart rate as she began to retell and organize the facts of such harsh news in a stabilizing, calming way. 💙 Recentering.
The Man Who Saw Too Much
Video for Kids: Relaxing Breath