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Gentle // Respectful // Counseling
Wedding in Pala
It has been ages since I have been to a wedding. Last night, with many friends and co-workers, I sat in attendance, under huge California Oak trees on 10 wild acres, a place called Secret Gardens, as two very nice people became husband and wife.
Just to prove how cool this couple is,
their Sears bridal registry requested a 17 pc. Super Sockets Rounded Bolt Remover and a 3 pc. Locking Pliers Set (practical long-term planning!)
But, I really believe ceremonies are necessary to keep us civilized and knitted together.
The officiating Minister said something that felt true and meaningful: We have a deep belief in a committed and loving relationship. Any way you slice it, everyone wants romantic and intimate love.
Female bears mate with the biggest baddest bear that she can find so her cubs will survive. Birds choose the most colorful male...this is raw instinct at its best.
The cultures that we all love to read about, say, the Egyptians or Romans, were full of custom and ritual. It doesn't mean they were better than us - just that ritual and formal ceremony moves us forward and keeps the immediate network socially supportive; the modern day Neighborhood Watch, book club, Moms running group, or a 1950's weekly bowling night for Dads.
If you are lacking in social support, think creatively - what or who do you enjoy? Schedule it and follow through. Folks who have friends and community support live longer and healthier.
Thank you Mark and Lisa - we loved the hawk circling above, the hot July sunset, and the chilly breeze that came next. Best wishes for your new journey.